In the middle of this book which is a good sign because there were a couple other books that I started and had to ghost after the first few pages.
Last Tang Standing by Lauren Ho is kinda like Crazy Rich Asians in terms of the income level of these characters, which I find fascinating anyway since I am no where near that, but I’m invested in the main character, Andrea, so I gotta see her storyline through.
Also, can I give a shout out to the BPL and the Libby app? They are the only reasons why I’ve started gorging on books this past year. I just wait for ebooks to become available or try something new.
UPDATE: Blazed through the rest of the book on a Saturday afternoon while the kiddo was napping. I couldn’t put it down. It’s the romcom that I was waiting for – and it even had comics woven into the storyline!
It felt like a mash-up of Bridget Jones’s Diary and Crazy Rich Asians.
My only wish was that there would’ve been just a little bit more shown of the relationship between Andrea and her love interest. It wasn’t obvious but, at the same time, it was obvious. I wanted more moments.
Anyhow, it was just nice to “see” in my head a non-White couple falling in love. More please!
My favorite line from the book:
And establishing dominance must be done in a classy, indirect, subtle way, like farting.
Oh man. I just came across this spreadsheet back from when I was trying to figure out my boob feeding / pumping schedule. It was a stressful AF time because I only had a few more weeks left before I had to go back to work so I needed my boobs to get used to this new schedule.
Also, how was I going to pump at work? Where was the mother’s room? How would I carry the pump along with my lunch and everything else during my subway commute? What would happen if I couldn’t get back home in time to pump?
It wasn’t even about producing enough milk. If I didn’t pump, my boobs would get clogged and then my boobs would feel like they were on fire (which happened a LOT). And, if they stay clogged, then you need antibiotics cuz bad shit can happen.
since my workplace only had one mother’s room, all the new moms created a text tree to let each other know if anyone needed more time or had to swap schedules
Sunflower lecithin became my friend. Had no idea what it exactly did other than preventing my milk ducts from getting clogged
invested in a freezer chest to store all the milk which has now come in handy during the pandemic cuz now I freeze all the meats and ice cream
Winding down the boob pumping / feeding adventure was a relief but it was also another beast I had to tackle. You can’t just stop cold turkey. I had to slowly and gradually wind it down – drop a session, let my body get used to it for a few days and then repeat until there were no more. After about a month, I was finally done and my boobs were, once again, useless and mine!
I made it to a year and that was all I could do cuz my sanity was at stake.
They don’t tell you how mentally exhausting it is to boob feed. You think it’s all sunshine and rainbows. No. It’s being chained to alarm notifications and an unrelenting schedule sprinkled with your boobs / nips getting all jacked up in addition to feeling like a social pariah. There were times when I’d have to disappear for 30-40 minutes while hanging out with friends & family, go to the car or find a room and pump.
I should’ve listened to my mom when she told me to just feed my kid formula. She came from that generation where formula was best – not what it is now with breast is best being shoved down everyone’s throats.
What’s best is for your kid to be fed one way or the other.
I’ll post the recipe once I’ve got it down, but I switched it up and used sugar-free banana syrup and walnuts instead. It came out really good – I’ll just have to scale down the amount of sugar, add some cinnamon + nutmeg and cook it for a minute longer next time.
But yeah, I like cake but I don’t want to bake a cake and have to eat it for the next week. I just want a serving for one….ONE…which is why I got the mini bundt maker. And yet, all these recipes for it have been for 6+ cakes.
One of the main reasons why I added this to my library e-reads is because it’s set in Boston – and not the Good Will Hunting / Southie kind of Boston, but the Boston with a Chinese immigrant family. Thank you Susie Yang for doing that.
One of my favorite lines:
“One successful marriage can feed three generations.”
Anyhow, Ivy isn’t a particularly good person, but I get why she is the way that she is. This is a twisted story that did not disappoint.
If you want to follow along and see what other books I’m reading, check out my GoodReads. My list features work by and about Asian/Asian Americans, YA, rom-coms, sci-fi, nonfiction and super trashy romance novels. Basically, it’s a hot mess.